Plus Size Clothing

Standing out in Comfort

Recently I attended a fundraiser for our local fire department. It was an Italian dinner with door prizes. The family always attends and buys lots of raffle tickets. We tend to stand out during this event because my husband is the auctioneer. He gets all dressed up in a tux and the finishing touch is his red fire hat! He looks sexy.

When getting dressed for the annual event, I was thinking about this: standing outside of my comfort zone. I certainly have different comfort zones now compared to the last five years. Most of the time I tend to play it safe with my clothes. I am certainly a conservative dresser. Once I find something I like or makes me feel comfy I wear it to death. This is fine but I forget to give myself more clothing options and to push my boundaries. My zone stays at one level: basic. When I get to this zone I tend to fall back to my old habits. I reach for the jeans and casual shirt. This is more like fitting into a crowd and not bringing attention to oneself.

3/4 sleeve with Standard V-Neck


Dressing sexy has always been a zone that I find challenging. I am not sure what that means for other women – maybe dressing a bit edgy, clean lines, bright colors or black perhaps may make some plus size women feel sexy. However, I feel most sexy when I go through the process of getting dressed up and selecting comfort. For me its about fit. Feeling and looking great makes me feel sexy. But then I will add red lipstick and a pair of killer shoes to really stretch my boundaries.

So as it went, I selected a V-neckline blouse with a 3/4 sleeve. I wore Revlon’s Just Bitten Lip Balm Stain in Romance, which coordinated with my husband’s fire hat! We both looked sexy!

Are you stuck in the same comfort zone or have you been pushing your boundaries. I love to hear from my readers.


Stephen, Your Designer

“There is an amazing feeling of artistic accomplishment when all the parts come together into one harmonious aesthetic. It's a connection with who you are and the elements you choose to express yourself visually. This is what making clothing is all about for me. It's like when a songwriter hears his first written notes from a voice or a baker who has practiced a recipe and nails it or a figure skater who exceeds her own expectations. I express my sense of art in clothing. I see things in color, shape and texture. I react to the touch of silk on my skin and my eyes are aware of how color combinations make me feel. My goal is to bring all of these intuitive notions to garments that are sized for larger women. If I can accomplish this then I have reached my goal.” – Stephen


  1. LaToya
    August 23, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    Think we all tend to develop a uniform of sorts. For me it’s only wearing dresses. It’s rare that I will wear separates, and even rarer to catch me in pants. So I’m the total opposite of most people, for me to step out of my comfort zone I would have to rock pants or jeans more.
    When it comes to feeling sexy a nice formfitting, and figure flattering dress that hugs my curves works for me.
    LaToya from toya’s tales

  2. Lisa Metcalf
    August 24, 2013 at 12:44 am

    I hear ya! Interesting you are a dress rocker than a pant hugger. But then I can understand. Because I am a 3x it is difficult to find a pant that is not too tight at the hips and thighs. Recently I have tried on some of those parachute yoga pants. Wow, they are comfy and roomy. However, they are totally out of my zone. Have you thought about those?

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